Ouch? Too hard a statement? Let’s take a moment to think about what love means to you? Then let’s see what love is today....
Just a few days ago it was Valentines day and it’s THE WORST TIME to not be in a relationship when everyone, I mean EVERYONE on your socials are celebrating love and their boos.
You start assuming the worst. When is my time? How is it so hard for me? It looks so easy for everyone else? Am I doing something wrong? Am I too picky?
Some days the loneliness creeps in and it haunts you. No I DON'T want my family or friends, I want a special someone. I want to be clingy. I want to be LOVED, in a romantic way. But most of all I want to be chosen...
Well - NO. The voice inside my head gets loud sometimes, but NO! None of these intrusive thoughts are true.
Today love is extravagant, but so is separation. So I remind myself that being in love and being with someone is more than just a want, because everyone else is doing it. It’s more than a yearning of a 20 something year old girl that’s had enough of heartbreak and pain and nights thinking about someone long gone.
It’s about commitment, love in it’s true sense, choosing each other everyday - through everything. It’s NOT co dependency but rather two whole individuals coming together, to further enrich each other. It’s not just another someone you get to go on cute dates with. It’s choosing to be with a person through their imperfections. It’s not settling for the bare minimum, it’s knowing you are capable of giving out so much and you deserve to get back nothing less.
While there are so many couples that give me the tingles (bless them!), I cannot help but to ponder about the guys that are with someone but have the audacity to slide into another girls dms (and girls too but I’m speaking from first hand experience here lol). Why? Just so you can reap the benefits of being in a relationship while fishing for someone better? Pathetic!
Things like these scare me. Then of course, comes infidelity....
So why bother? Why settle? You’re not losing anything. Embracing your solitude and independence & becoming the best version of yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself. And the right one will make their way to you at the right time. Not too late, not too early.
So yes, love today is overrated. People get into relationships for the sake of it. Because they feel left out. Because they don’t really know what love is. Because everyone else seem to be doing it. Because they feel time is running out and the list goes on.
While some have found their missing puzzle piece, the rest of us need to know that we don’t really have to complete the puzzle right away <3
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